Sunday, 31 December 2017
I'm glad that the boys look forward to Christmas still, as it helps me to get out and do things with them, to try to not let the sadness overwhelm me at this time of the year. The Christmas parade started it all off at the end of November.
We finally went out to look at the Christmas lights on Aaron's birthday. School didn't finish for me until the 22nd this year, so Christmas came up so quickly.
organised so many special things for us, through businesses when we went on a special holiday to Queensland. It made our holiday so special, and I'll never forget how much it helped us as it made us forget how hard things were, just for a little while.
The weather on Boxing Day was beautiful again, and I couldn't resist getting into the freezing water just for a quick dip.
While we were at the beach my cousin Ty sent me a text, asking if Harri wasn't to go and play basketball with him and some other guys that night. Harri always loves going out to my Mum's as my brother Eden and my cousins and friends who live there, get together regularly to play basketball together for fun. He was so excited, and met up with them at the school to play that night. Konnie's husband Colin and their son Josh also went. Harri was the youngest one there, but had a great time.
Ty is also hilarious, so Harri loves hanging with him. He wishes that he lives closer, so they can have more 'date nights'. It's so nice for the boys when they have older guys around, as they're always with their boring Mum.
To be honest his birthday is bigger now than when he was alive. The 23rd of December is such a pain of a day to have a birthday. It's when everyone is busy getting ready for Christmas, and a birthday is the last thing you want to think about. But Aaron used to love having his birthday then, as he said everyone was happy and excited for Christmas.
When Aaron was alive we would always just have his favourite food for tea and have cake together, but I love our birthday tradition that we do now that he's not here. It makes the day a lot easier, and I actually look forward to it every year as it's a fun day we spend with friends.
This year we met up again with my friend Simone and her family and my cousin Tim and his wife Helene and their kids. Jalen's girlfriend Erin also joined us this year, which was lovely. We always meet at the Punchbowl Reserve and have a BBQ. The kids played a bit of cricket, while we sat around catching up.
This time last year Simone was pregnant with Emerson. He was loving all the attention he was getting.
We then headed to the cemetery with balloons to release at Aaron's grave.
It was a really windy day, and quite cold by the time we got to the cemetery. Arden kept finding artificial flowers and tinsel all over the grass, which had blown off different graves, so he collected them and then brought them all over to Aaron's grave.
Ava was so cute and said 'I love this day Lisa'. I do too Ava! It's definitely not the way I want to be spending Aaron's birthday, but I'm grateful for friends who help make it a special day.